Blogmas 2018 – it’s ok to take some time out or ask for help

This time last year I was talking about dealing with Christmas stress, and I seem to have come full circle!
It’s a fun time of year, but there’s also a lot to do, and different people will struggle with different things. I love organising things, but I know other people get stressed out by it. Not being organises stresses me out more! Sometimes you have a lot of people in one place for a number of days – people that you wouldn’t normally see, never mind stay with for a few days. Some people are worried about cooking for extra people, whereas others don’t mind the cooking, but hate the supermarket a week before Christmas. Some people are just tired after driving around to what feels like endless events/parties/school plays/meetings with friends/activities. Some people just don’t feel well – they’ve been busy and then get run down and catch a cold the day before Christmas Eve.
It’s too easy to divide people up into those who love the Christmas period with all its festive activities, and those who don’t!
You can still enjoy it, but feel a bit jaded by the time it gets to a week before Christmas.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned over the last couple of years is that it’s important to ask for help if you need it.
I don’t mean the practical stuff – that’s important too, but I’m better at asking for a specific favour to fix a practical problem.
With other things though – if I’ve been feeling frazzled or stressed out, sad or overwhelmed – my usual plan is to just plough on through and not tell anyone. If I am not feeling ok, I usually just withdraw anyway and nobody even notices there’s a problem. I don’t intentionally hide it, it just doesn’t always occur to me to share.
That might be the only way if there really is noone around to help, but usually there is someone, even if we don’t see it straight away. In any event, when there is a partner or friends and family members who would love to help if they knew how, it’s good to let them.
Sometimes they can help by taking on a task that is causing you stress, or at least sharing it. Maybe the thing can be avoided all together or done in a different way.
Maybe it’ll just help people to know why you need a long bath and some alone time.
Maybe they didn’t realise there was a problem because different things stress out different people.
Maybe you just need a hug!
Whatever it is, it can sometimes feel like there’s a lot of pressure, particularly on social media, to be seen to be having fun and the “best Christmas time ever”. But sometimes, for whatever reasons, it doesn’t feel like that. And that’s ok.
So if you can’t wait for Christmas and you’re excited and happy, that’s great! But if you’re not, you don’t have to struggle on your own – whether that’s because of life events that make you not feel like celebrating, or just all the little things that mount up and make you want a bit of time out.

Advent calendar unboxing

Throughout Blogmas I’ll be unboxing my two advent calendars from Glossybox and the Body Shop and giving a brief product review.
Body Shop – It’s product 9 for the giveaway – a full-size Himalayan charcoal face mask from the Body Shop. The mask absorbs excess oil and purifies skin to leave a healthy glow.
Glossybox – this was cool! A fat eye stick from Eyeko. They’re available in 3 shades, and they’re a twist-up crayon eye shadow. I have a number of these, but none from this brand, so I was happy to try out a new one!
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Author: englishwithkirsty

I have two blogs. Unseen Beauty is my personal blog. English with Kirsty is my business blog for people who are interested in languages or learning English.

4 thoughts on “Blogmas 2018 – it’s ok to take some time out or ask for help”

  1. A great post for this time of year. It’s portrayed as being such a wonderful and happy time, but for many people it is a struggle. I also think it’s important to remember that you don’t have to be happy at Christmas, it’s doing what’s best for you. x I hope you have a wonderful Christmas. 🙂 xxx

    1. Thanks – it’s a bit harder to write this kind of post and it isn’t as jolly as a lot of the Blogmas articles, but I want to keep it real here and not just focus on the positives, which is why I seem to have ended up with something on this topic both times I’ve done Blogmas.
      I hope you’ll have a good Christmas whatever you’re doing XX

  2. Such a good post, and you’re right, it’s often easier to ask for help with practical things while saying ‘I’m fine’ to the rest of it and ploughing through. Those around us may want to help but not know how, and although sometimes even we don’t know how others can help, it can be a good place to start just to open the dialogue, to get a hug, to let someone in on how you’re feeling.xxxx

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