Seeing ourselves as others see us

My interview with Brendan Magill on his workshop to help blind and partially sighted people think about how they present themselves and how these choices affect the way that others see them.

Seeing yourself as others see you

Introduction

As a child, I wasn’t really interested in make-up and dressing up nicely, but I remember having a big basket of things for the bath and little bottles of perfume (my Nan was an Avon lady!)

When I went to High School, things began to change, and I became more interested in what I wore. I had my first venture into make-up and changed my hairstyle dramatically, which was a disaster, but at least I learned what I really didn’t like and could grow it out again!

I’ve always had friends and family who would give me honest feedback about how I look. My boyfriend knows that if I ask “does this look ok?” I’m looking for an honest answer before we leave the house! But what about blind people who don’t have anyone to give this feedback or who genuinely don’t care how they look? How can they get feedback if they want it, and what impact can not caring about their appearance have on them?

I know Brendan Magill because he runs a number of mailing lists for visually impaired people. The one most relevant to me is UKVISE, the list for self-employed visually impaired people.

When I discovered that Brendan had designed a workshop to help blind and partially sighted people understand more about how to present themselves at interviews and in the workplace, I decided to find out more about it. Why did he think this training was necessary? What mistakes had he seen people making?

I did a telephone interview with Brendan and this is what he told me.

1. How important is your own physical appearance and presentation to you as someone with a visual impairment?

I have congenital cataracts, but I’ve always had a useful amount of residual vision. My brother has the same condition and my dad was partially sighted. He could see more than us, but he always presented himself very well.

I can still hear my mum saying things like “head up, chest out, tummy in!” That was just what we did.

As my sight has been getting worse, I have come to understand why a lot of blind people don’t hold their head up high. There’s nothing to focus on. But still, it does look better if you sit up straight, with your head up, and face the person that you’re talking to. Not doing this draws attention to yourself in a negative way, because people wonder why your posture and body language are not the same as those around you.

I never thought about why I do some of these things. I just did them. I turned myself out well.

I went to New College Worcester. Whilst we weren’t pushed very hard to present ourselves well, we got involved in activities locally such as a youth club or dance classes. That was good for us because it helped us to become more social in the wider world, even though we were going to a special school for blind people.

When I got my first job, the first thing my dad did was to take me out to buy some new clothes for work so that I could look my best.

2. Why did you decide to create training to help visually impaired people to present themselves appropriately at work?

Throughout the following few decades I was always decently turned out when I went to work or into town. The result of this was that I seemed to get on very well in the community and people treated me well. I didn’t realise how much of that was happening until much later on when I started doing some IT training at RNC. I hadn’t thought about personal presentation much before then. I was teaching a group of students of various ages. I thought “some of these guys are actually quite scruffy! They won’t get a job looking like that.”

I was teaching them IT, but I said on certain days they had to come dressed as though they were coming to work. Some did and some didn’t.

One guy was in his 40s and he’d been losing his sight for a while. He used to come looking scruffy with a shirt he’d been wearing for a few days and a scruffy jacket. He needed a shower.

I took him into the office and had a chat with him about how he could spruce up his clothes. The following week was an improvement.

A few weeks later he finished his course and came back for speech day. He came to see me and was looking much better. Not only that but he’d got a job.

He probably did know that he wasn’t looking his best, but I think he hadn’t thought about it and how this would affect how other people thought of him.

The other one was harder. It was a girl in her early 20s, fortunately the same age as my own daughters. She used to come in to class dressed as though she were going clubbing with very revealing tops. She would do this even on days when she was supposed to be dressed for work.

I pointed out how revealing the top was. “If I could see more than I can, I would be able to see more than I should. You might want to dress like that on a night out with your friends, but it’s not the way to dress for work or college.”

After that conversation, I really needed to mention it to another member of staff. I talked to one of the female members of staff who was interested in the way people dress and present themselves. She was running a make-up session and said she’d include some tips about how you dress as well.

On speech day, the same girl came to me. She still looked gorgeous, but this time she looked presentable as well. She got a job too.

Those two experiences got me interested in the way people who are visually impaired are turned out. I started thinking about my own experiences, and watching what the blind and partially sighted people around me were doing. That’s when I got the idea for the workshop – seeing ourselves as others see us. This was nearly 20 years ago. I got a lot of advice from the female members of staff, particularly for the girls. I ran the workshop a few times for different organisations. I haven’t run it for a long time now, but I think it’s something that is very important.

It’s all about understanding that you can’t be totally free in the way that you present yourself. You need to fit in with the workplace as it is. If you can’t see how other people are dressing, you might not know what’s appropriate.

When you’re in work, you make friends with people. Blind people shouldn’t be afraid to ask their colleagues what they wear. But first you need the colleagues, and you won’t have those if you don’t pass the interview stage because of the way you look.

3. What would you say are some of the consequences of getting it wrong, and how can inappropriate personal presentation reduce someone’s chance of passing an interview or being fully integrated into the workplace?

If you turn up at an interview and are not presentable, you probably won’t get the job. Personal presentation is so important, particularly in jobs where you have contact with the public.

Regardless of your skills and experience, the interviewer might think “we don’t want someone like that turning up for work.”

If you’re already in employment, It makes you more segregated and you get known for the problem or unusual fashion choices, not for what you bring to the team.

Even if you know what’s appropriate, if you can’t see for yourself, you may need to get advice about what colours and styles can be worn together.

4. In general, have you found that sighted colleagues mention when something does not look appropriate or something is not right?

Most colleagues would be unlikely to tell you. Maybe it’s easier for girls, but first you have to build up trust and a good working relationship with them so that they feel comfortable about pointing things out.
There is a fear that things can be taken the wrong way. Sometimes colleagues don’t like to tell you about things that don’t look good because they don’t like to think they’re criticising someone with a disability. Also, they might not be sure how the blind person will react? Sometimes they even think that blind people don’t care. Sometime they’re right about that.

5. Why do you think that some blind and partially sighted people don’t have access to information about presenting themselves in the best possible way?

I think a lot of it is to do with political correctness. It’s seen to be wrong to criticise disabled people.

Families sometimes don’t know how to deal with it, or they don’t want to address uncomfortable issues.

6. What tips would you give someone who finds it difficult to go shopping for clothes on their own?

Start off by asking your family and sighted friends for help and advice. We need those sort of friends who can give us honest advice, and taking part in mainstream activities is a way to meet sighted people. Find a hobby or an activity that you can share with other people and explain to them what you need, rather than expecting them to know about blindness-related issues.

Sometimes the staff in shops can be really helpful, but the level of help available varies a lot between shops, and it’s hard to tell someone that they really don’t look good, which is why some shop assistants may be reluctant to do this. An honest friend or family member may feel more comfortable suggesting that you try something else.

Also, if you ask for the truth about how you look and the comment isn’t totally positive, take it on the chin and don’t be overly sensitive.

7. Do you ever get questions about make-up? How do you deal with those?

Very rarely. I used to refer them to my wife or my granddaughter. If you don’t know something, it’s better to say “I don’t know about that but I know someone who does.”

8. Where can we find out more about your work?

You can go to my website.

Final thoughts

So, you know that on English with Kirsty I talk a lot about various beauty products. I’m not saying that everyone should take the same interest in make-up etc as I do, not being able to see is not an excuse to not care about how you look because even if you can’t see yourself, the people around you can still see you.

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My friend Cindy – the golden guiding girl

Four paws, 10 happy years together, and a big, waggy tail. I’d like to tell you about my friend Cindy the golden retriever!

I’d like to tell you about my friend. She isn’t around any more, but you can see her picture on both of my websites. Many of my friends met her, but for anyone who hasn’t, this is the story of Cindy, my golden guiding girl.

If you asked me about my favourite dog breed, I’d tell you it’s the golden retriever. This is because I spent 9 happy years with one – firstly as my guide dog, and then as a friend and companion because she stayed with me when she was too old to work.

Cindy was not my first guide dog. The first one was a crazy Labrador who had some behavioural issues and after a year it was decided that she was not suitable to guide. She retired early and became a family pet. I knew I could make it work with a guide dog. I saw how much happiness and freedom they brought to other visually impaired friends. I have loved dogs since I was a small child. We always had them when I was growing up because my grandparents loved dogs as well.

When I was 4, we got a new dog, who was also called Cindy. I grew up with her, and she was my childhood friend. When I was 5, I thought she was smart enough to learn to read. “Wag your tail if this word says cat”! That didn’t work out so well, but she was a smart girl and we had a lot of fun together, in our garden, on holiday, on walks, or just chilling out. The first Cindy died when I was 15.

Cindy the retriever bounced into my life when I was in my early twenties. You don’t get to choose the name of a guide dog, so it felt quite special that this girl shared her name with my childhood friend. Each litter of puppies is given names beginning with the same letter – so all of Cindy’s brothers and sisters had names beginning with C.

We trained out of a hotel in Greenwich, London, which meant that we were close to a nice big park for walks after the training sessions.

During the next years, we did everything together! Cindy sat under my desk in my various offices, helped me to negotiate two of my least favourite obstacles on London streets – roadworks, because they are never in the same place twice and completely change the landscape that was otherwise so familiar to us, and tourists, because many of them are so intent on taking their pictures and completely oblivious to the fact that there are other people on the streets who might actually need to get somewhere, such as to work!

I had a lot of dog-loving friends, many of whom worked long hours, so they couldn’t have a dog of their own. We all went for long walks together, mostly in the Surrey countryside, and sometimes we went for long weekends to visit a friend on the Isle of Wight, where the golden girl could swim in the sea.

This is something I wrote on her 4th birthday and it sums up a lot of the happy memories we had together:

Four years – where have they gone?

The golden wagging bundle of fun
Who bounded in to my house one day in November In preparation for our December class.

Something about you got my attention
Your love for life and sense of fun
Your ability to keep calm and wag whatever happens.
I loved the golden puppy girl straight away!

I’d been so disappointed with a failed match
Willing to put my trust in a new guide But feeling under ridiculous pressure to make it work.
Pressure of my own making – but still it was there.

Class was fun in the training centre.
We learned together.

A few months in, you were naughty
Not wanting to walk past the vets
Because you’d been in there for ear treatment.
Not wanting to go home
If you didn’t think our walk had been long enough!

But somehow along the way things fell in to place And we became a team, and good friends.
I think we’d always been friends
But were just getting to know each other.
You learned I don’t like mornings
I learned you love to run and chase after sticks And bark at them if they are too big!
You love to sing and do headstands when you’re happy
And can pick up if I’m annoyed or upset,
Coming over to make sure I’m ok,
Laying your head on my lap And not leaving till you’ve made me smile.

So many happy memories
Chasing in the park after your ball
Diving in to the forbidden muddy pond
When we were supposed to be going out for lunch.

I was so proud when we did our first walks together
And you remembered the places we’d been before.
You soon got the name Singing Cindy
Because of your happy songs!

We explored our new area together
When we moved house, under a year after we met.
Would you find our door again? Would we get lost?
Only once did you try to have me break in to another house with my key
But that was months in to our time there and I wasn’t paying attention!

The time when you were so ill after eating a firework
I was so worried because you couldn’t breathe.
Rushing you to the vets to get you cared for.

Then moving jobs to a brand new office and company
You looking out for men as you always do Unaware of their place on the talent scale!

How many secrets do you know about me?
It’s a good thing you can’t talk!!

I was so proud as you took in each new place with ease
Learning routes and following other dogs without going crazy!

It’s fun to see you out on walks
Loving the feeling of freedom
Running like a crazy horse
And carrying logs twice your size!
Rolling in the dry grass
And telling off any log which is too big for you to carry!

With you I can stroll around town confidently!
Not feeling clumsy or dependent,
But travelling quickly and freely because I know you’re looking out for things in our way.

The time that the knife-wielding men fled at the sight of you
After trying to terrorise the train carriage.
Meanwhile you were sleeping – oblivious to the whole thing!
The time we accidentally got on the TV news,
Because I thought the live reporters outside our building were a bunch of tourists
And urged you forward so we could go inside!

How many people say how beautiful you are
And want to stroke that golden head!
Sometimes it’s annoying
But I’m proud to know you’re so stunning

Sometimes people try to deny you access
And that makes me really angry.
I’ll take on the argument, and usually win
But how embarrassing and degrading is that?
We just want to have a meal or a drink with friends in peace
And don’t always have the energy to make people aware of the law.

We’ve done so much together!
The long trips we’ve taken
The new people we’ve met.
Apart from your tendency to want to be everyone’s best friend
I know I can take you anywhere And that you will behave impeccably.

And the Cindy hugs,
When you jump up on your back legs And give me a hug.

And the times when it’s all got too much
And you let me cry in to that silky fur!
Staying with me, no words necessary!

I asked for a speedy dog, and I got one
Happy to trot along when I’m late
Quickly but carefully!
Trying to stop at the taxi rank
To see if I’ll pay for a ride home
And in doing so give you the evening off!

We’ve had so much fun over the last four years
And I look forward to the next years together with you My golden guiding girl.

Well, We had more than four more years together after that. As Cindy grew older, she had a number of health issues and we later discovered it was pancreatitis. This meant various types of medication before and with her food, and that I had to be so careful that she didn’t get anything other than the special prescribed diet. Otherwise she could get very sick.

This became easier when I changed my job and set up my own business. No more 3 hour commutes into London! That was wonderful and although we’d both had good times with our colleagues in London, in the end we were glad not to have to travel any more.

I was so relieved when I got permission to keep Cindy when she retired. This doesn’t happen automatically and if you can’t find an approved home for your guide dog, the Guide Dogs Association will rehome your dog, but the new owners are not obliged to stay in touch with the original guide dog owner. After we’d been through so much together, I could not imagine anyone else looking after her but me. After all, we’d worked together as a team for so many years. She’d looked out for me, and I wanted to do the same for her in her old age.

It all worked out well in the end. I worked from home, and Cindy stayed with me. At first I thought about applying for a new guide dog straight away, but then I moved house again and decided that I didn’t want to put Cindy through the stress of having a young dog bouncing around.

When Cindy was 11, she developed a tumour. At first nothing happened, but then it began to spread quickly. I had to make the hardest decision that any animal owner has to make, but I didn’t want her to suffer, or to keep her alive just because I couldn’t bear to say goodbye. The vet came to our house to make it less traumatic and Cindy fell asleep for the last time in my arms.

I don’t plan to get another guide dog at the moment and this is not the place to ask about that. This post is to celebrate my friendship with a wonderful golden retriever who brought so much happiness to my life. She wasn’t perfect – anyone who has lived with a golden retriever knows just how stubborn they can be – but I certainly wasn’t perfect either, and that’s what makes a friendship real.

If you’ve written a post about your dog, please drop the link in the comments. I would love to read it!

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Anne Frank’s house

I read Anne Frank’s diary when I was about 13 years old. I was old enough to understand the seriousness of the story, but it was only when, around 20 years later, I stood in the rooms where Anne and her family, plus four other people, had gone into hiding during the Second World War, that I began to get a glimpse of how cramped and terrifying life must have been for them.

If you want to go to Anne Frank’s house during a visit to Amsterdam, you really have to book in advance because the tickets sell out very quickly.

My partner and I went there in May. There are audio devices that you can borrow, which are activated when you are in the correct area. This meant that my boyfriend had to take me to the activation points, but I didn’t need to do anything to the device to make it work. The explanations and diary extracts were available in a number of languages. There is also information to read and there are some artifacts to look at in the various rooms.

It’s a self-guided tour and you are let in in groups so that the building doesn’t become too full. My partner guided me around. It’s fine for a relatively fit blind person, but anyone with restricted mobility may find the steep steps difficult. Throughout the tour, there is information about the life of the Frank family before, during and after their time in hiding, and part of the story is told through extracts from Anne’s diary, which range from descriptions of everyday happenings, to her deepest thoughts, hopes and fears.

Anne Frank was born in Germany, where she lived with her parents and older sister Margot until 1933, when the family moved to the Netherlands, following concerns about Hitler’s rise to power. They felt safe there for a short time, but the sense of freedom was short-lived because Germany invaded the Netherlands in 1940 and life became increasingly difficult for Jewish people there too.

One of the things that struck me was that the family didn’t suddenly find themselves in a situation where they needed a place to hide. Things were getting progressively worse. Anne listed a number of things in one of her earlier diary entries such as Jewish people weren’t allowed to ride the tram, use swimming pools, be outside after a certain time, visit the houses of non-Jewish people etc. So it was a creeping misery. Maybe, in the beginning, some people thought it would never end in a situation where people were fleeing for their lives or looking for somewhere to hide. But it did. If you don’t stand up to bullies, unfairness, or smaller injustices, they gain power and momentum until people really are powerless to stop them. I think there’s a lesson in there for us, too.

When Anne’s older sister Margot was called up to be sent to a German labour camp, Otto Frank, Anne’s dad, and the only survivor of the eight people who went into hiding together, decided to take his family into hiding with the help of his employees.

I am someone who needs time alone. Not time away from my partner, but time away from lots of people in general. If I don’t get it, I can become grumpy. And yet day after day, these 8 people were in that small series of rooms, with nowhere to go. No opportunities to go outside for a walk. Nowhere to get away.

Not only that, but they had to entrust their survival to complete strangers. I don’t just mean the people who were keeping them alive by bringing provisions, but they had to trust each other. No flushing the toilet during the daytime. No loud noises. NO accidentally letting a door slam shut. No dropping things on the floor. What about in the summertime if people got hay fever? No sneezing! Doing any of these things could have resulted in them all being found and captured. Trusting family members and complete strangers with your life like that must have been really hard on the nerves.

The family of four, plus four other people, hid in this small series of rooms behind a slidable bookcase for two years, until they were discovered on 4th August 1944. It is not known how they were discovered or if someone betrayed them. They were first deported to a transit camp and then sent on to the concentration camp at Auschwitz. Anne later died of typhus in the concentration camp at Bergen-Belsen.

Anne wanted her diary to be published after the war, and in 1947, her father made sure that this wish came true. Now it has been translated into more than 60 languages and has been read by children and adults all over the world.

As we came out, we were immediately back in the world of parties and happy people having fun. The loud hustle and bustle of a city full of people enjoying themselves. Such a stark contrast to the place that we had just left behind. It made me want to go out and enjoy life because life is so precious, whilst at the same time not forgetting what we had just witnessed. How persecution of people based on race or religious belief can lead to such misery and cruel loss of life.

Have you read the diary of Anne Frank?

Amsterdam

Have you been to Amsterdam? What did you do there?

Click on the link if you want to find out about the cheese tasting event that we attended in Amsterdam on a previous visit.

I didn’t check out this link because it’s a visual presentation, but apparently you can look inside the Anne Frank house on this page

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May empties – masks and favourites from Latest in Beauty

My thoughts on the products that I used up in May 2017,and whether I’d repurchase them.

Well it’s that time of the month again – time for the May empties! I seem to have a lot this month, partly because of the sample-size products I’m getting in my Latest in Beauty and Lovelula boxes, and partly because I’m making a real effort to finish things up before opening new ones! So here they are – the products I finished up in May and what I thought of them.

Skincare

I only found out about them this year, but I love sheet masks. I finished up a packet of my favourite ones this month, the Skin Food everyday facial masks. The picture is of my favourite one, the orange one, but you get 10 different kinds in there such as tomato, broccoli, green tea, berries and nuts. I’ve since tried out a number of different makes, but I keep coming back to these. They have the right amount of product, which means that there’s a good covering, but they’re not slopping with it, making everything messy. Also, just a small detail, but the little cuts around the edge don’t go far into the centre, making them much easier to unfold and put on the face. I’ve ordered a new pack already and would highly recommend them.

I tend to go for the Body Shop body butters in the winter and reach for the lighter lotions and sorbets in the summer. I used up a pink grapefruit body butter and really enjoyed it, partly because of the grapefruit scent, I love this range, and partly because this one isn’t quite as firm as some of the other butters, so it’s easier to spread over the skin. I would buy this again, but only when I’ve used up some of my other butters and lotions!

I also used up a mini body butter and a shower gel in the spiced apple range, but they were in the Christmas 2016 range, so I can’t link them. Still, if they come back next year, I’ll snap up some more. Also, If you prefer berries to the apples, I used up a spiced berries shower gel, also from the Christmas range, which was nice and wintry!

I’m swimming against the tide of positive reviews, both from Lovelula and Latest in Beauty, when I tell you I was somewhat underwhelmed by the Weleda Skin food that I got in Lovelula, but that was also available recently on Latest in Beauty. Some people are raving about it on Youtube because it helped to clear up skin conditions. Some people have even said that they put it on their face, but I wouldn’t put anything that greasy on my face. I used it up as a foot cream, but wouldn’t think of putting it anywhere else!

I mentioned these wonderful Glycolic fix cleansing pads in my May Favourites as a quick and easy alternative for exfoliating, particularly for those of us who don’t like exfoliators with rough particles and prefer to use natural acids. I finished up the mini pack that I got in Latest in Beauty and ordered a full-size one straight away because I was going to Amsterdam and wanted to take them away with me. This was the first thing that I bought directly as a result of trying on Latest in Beauty. The second was the Benefit Cosmetics Porefessional primer which is fabulous!

I finished up my second Seychelles hand cream from Latest in Beauty. I really should just get the full-sized one from the White Company. The hand cream is brilliant and I love the smell which makes you feel as though you’re on a tropical beach somewhere! This will be my third “Latest in Beauty made me buy it!” product.

On the subject of hand cream, I also used up the Shea hand cream from the Body Shop. It’s not my favourite hand cream from there, but it is a good one if you don’t like some of the stronger scents, because this one just smells clean and fresh.

Bath and shower

If you’re looking for something to wake you up in the morning and you like citrus scents like lemon and lime, I got through a mini citrus blend hand and body wash that I got in my Latest in Beauty. If you don’t want to subscribe to Latest in Beauty, you can also get it directly from Evolve Organic Beauty. Not the cheapest hand and body wash, but a nice alternative if you want something citrusy and refreshing in the shower! Link removed because it was broken.

I also used up my Greenfrog botanic body wash – neroli and lime from Lovelula. I think I’ve discovered that I don’t like Neroli very much, which is a shame because it seems to be used in a lot of beauty products. This was ok, and actually I do have a second one as a friend gave me hers. I will use it up, but because of the neroli scent, this isn’t something that I would buy again.

The satsuma range is one of my favourites from the Body shop, and I had a mini satsuma shower gel, probably left over from the advent calendar! I love this stuff, and the minis are great for taking away with you.

If you want something for the bathroom that smells fresh and is great value for money, we just finished up the Baylis & Harding jasmin and apple blossom hand wash. I usually get the grapefruit one, but we fancied a change!

In Latest in Beauty, I got a mini shower gel so that I could try out the Jasmin and Bergamot range from L’Occitane. I like this and would try out more products in the range.

Hair care

I tried out the Avon naturals almond and avocado shampoo I think I prefer the apple one that I mentioned in last month’s empties, but if you like something with less of a fragrance, you may prefer this one.

Fragrance

I got two free fragrance samples in my Latest in Beauty box. One was the Flower by Kenzo but although I used up the sample, this is two floral for me, with the main notes being rose, violet and white musk. I didn’t hate it, it just wasn’t my usual fruity fragrance!

The other one surprised me, because it was also a floral fragrance, but I liked it more, maybe because the top notes were rose and gardenia, and it reminded me of Tuberose Gardenia? No idea, but it was the Narciso Rodriguez Eau de Parfum.

Make-up

Anyone who reads my blog will know that I’m a big fan of the body shop, but I was rather disappointed with the insterblur. I was very close to just binning it, because I hated the way it came out of the tube like little worms, and the way it applied. Heidi from the Body Shop said that you need to warm the product up between your hands first, and this does work better, but I still don’t think it’s as good as my other primers, so although I’ll use it up as an everyday primer, I won’t be buying it again.

One of the products in the Body Shop advent calendar that I hadn’t tried before was the Camomile gentle eye make-up remover. I don’t wear waterproof mascara, so I don’t know how well it deals with that, but for the non-waterproof mascara and cream or crayon shadows that I wear, it does the job well and is gentle on the eyes. I have already replaced it with the full-size version of this product.

How about you?

Which products have you been enjoying, or which ones did you finish up in May? Let me know in the comments. Also, have you tried any of the products I mentioned in this post? If so, I’d love to know your thoughts!

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May favourites – fragrance, sushi, and lots of mangos!

The food, fragrance, and skin care products that I have been enjoying this month!

Hi and welcome to my May favourites! At the beginning of May, I spent some time in Amsterdam, and some of the favourites, including the chocolate in the picture, come from there.

Food and drink

We make a habit of trying out new chocolate when we go on business travel or city breaks, and Amsterdam was no exception. We tried some Dutch milk and white chocolate, and it was really good. I also came back with a mouse heaven supply of cheese in my suitcase – pesto cheese, cumin cheese, truffle cheese, and three of the Reypenaer cheeses. WE didn’t do the cheese tasting tour again, but we stocked up on some more cheese!

I also discovered, to my surprise, that I actually like sushi. I don’t usually like fish. The sushi restaurant had been chosen by one of my partner’s colleagues, so I went along with the idea that I’d just try it, and get something from the Turkish restaurant near our hotel if I really didn’t like the sushi. But I did like the sushi. I’d only had it once, but not in a proper restaurant, and I think that if done properly, it can taste really good! I even suggested going back the next day on our own because we don’t have any sushi bars near where we live!

On another note, I know it’s a bit lazy not making your own mango lassi, but I discovered two in the supermarket. If you’ve never tried it, it’s a kind of fruity yoghurt drink, sometimes with spices. The first one is Nomadic mango lassi (link removed as broken) from Morrisons. A bit less sweet than you might get in a restaurant, but I guess that’s a good thing! The one from Pakeeza is sweeter and more like the traditional lassi. I like them both!

Fragrance

I discovered the Hugo Boss deep red perfume for women last year. I sprayed it in a department store, but ended up buying it on Amazon because it was on sale. Although this perfume does have some floral notes, it also contains orange and blackcurrant, so it’s great for people who like a more fruity scent, as I do. This isn’t a new fragrance for me, but I’ve been wearing it a lot this month, which is why I have included it.

Skin care

After trying out the Yes to Cucumber mask last month, I also discovered that they do make-up wipes named after different fruit and vegetables. I’m not so sure that I’d recommend the mask now that the second one irritated my skin quite badly, but the make-up wipes are good.

I know some people are totally against make-up wipes, and I don’t use them all the time, but I think they do have their place, and I think that some of the people who say they would never, ever use them, just to be cool, have a secret stash of them somewhere.

Anyway, I got the cucumber ones and the grapefruit ones – because grapefruit, but then I actually realised that they are for different kinds of skin. The cucumber ones are gentle and for sensitive skin. I don’t have sensitive skin, but I never mind buying these products because I think they will be soothing and gentle on the skin. I have tried the grapefruit ones too, but they are really for pore perfection and even skin tone, which isn’t my main concern. So I’ll use them up, but in future I’ll stick to the cucumber ones, or the ones that are probably best suited to my skin – the coconut ones which are moisturising too. I haven’t tried those out yet, but I’ll be reporting back later when I have.

I like to mix up my body lotions and shower gels. I use a lot of Body Shop products, but this month I’ve gone back to this favourite Victoria’s Secret mango body lotion because I love the juicy mango scent. It’s the only range I’ve tried from this brand – I just got it because of the mango, but it also does a good job at hydrating the skin and making the room smell delicious!

I wouldn’t say this is a favourite, but it’s helped me out. Back at the end of last year I got the Tea Tree night lotion from the Body Shop. I put it to the back of the drawer because I don’t like the smell of Tea Tree oil and I realised that it was more for oily skin, which is exactly the opposite of what I have. However, when a couple of stubborn spots appeared, I rubbed some of this on the affected area and they went down really quickly. I wouldn’t use this all over my face, but it came in handy for the spots!

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Hair care

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you’ll know that I’m going through different hair products – shampoos, conditioners, and hair masks – to find some new products that I like. Something that has really impressed me this month is the Avon Advance Techniques instant repair mask because it smells great, leaves my hair feeling nourished, silky and smooth, and it feels as though these results last a couple of days.

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make-up

I never seem to get through my make-up, probably because I buy one-colour eye creams, rather than palates, and it takes for ever to use up a lipstick. Anyway, I try to switch out my lipsticks and at the moment I’ve been getting a lot of use out of my L’Oréal Color Riche Garnet Rose lipstick and my a href=”http://amzn.to/2kmlmte” > Maybelline Colour Sensational Lipstick – 740 Coffee Craze .

I got a mini sample of the Porefessional face primer from Benefit Cosmetics in my Latest in Beauty box, and I really like it. It’s more expensive than the one I usually use, but you can feel the difference. I wear make-up most days, so I think I’ll keep going with my cheaper one and get this for when I want a special treat.

How about you?

What have you been enjoying this month? Let me know in the comments, and also feel free to drop a favourites link if you’ve written a post about this.

Do you know any more good mango products?

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Update to the featured products pages

Today’s post is just to let you know that I’ve been busy updating the featured products pages.

When you click on the main featured products page, it takes you to a page with a list of categories.

From here, you can choose the one that most interests you. For example, the one that has the most content is skincare, where there is a table with all the good skincare products that I have mentioned so far, where you can find them, and the link to the post in which I talked about them.

Other categories include bath and shower products, hair care, fragrance, and make-up.

If I didn’t like a product, it won’t be featured on these pages.

I hope this will make it easier for people who are interested in what I have written about specific types of products.

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April empties – grapefruit, strawberries and apples!

Hello again and although it’s a bit later than planned, it’s time for my April empties!

I don’t know about you, but I think that April flew by – probably because I spent one week of it on holiday! It was a skincare and bath and shower kind of month!

These are the products that I used up in April.

Skincare

I’ve mentioned it before, but I love love love the pink grapefruit hand cream from the Body Shop. It only comes in the 30 ml tubes, and I finished up another one!

I reviewed the Soap and Glory hand food (hand cream) in my post about hands, and I finished up a tube of it last month. The marshmallow does make it smell quite sweet, and I wouldn’t buy it for the scent, but the wonderful formula and the way that my hands feel so smooth afterwards would definitely encourage me to buy it again.

Finishing up the Greek skincare products that I bought to try, I was sorry to see the end of the Fresh line Galatea body milk. I’ll definitely be buying that again and I think this kind of thing is particularly good in the summer, when you want something a bit lighter on your skin. Also I couldn’t say “no” to the lovely coconut and almond scent.

I got a sample of the Marlenha Petal Delicate Eye Serum in my Lovelula box, and whilst I did enjoy it, I can’t justify spending 48 Euros on this. I know it’s a luxury brand and although it promises eyes that look brighter, fresher and more rejuvenated, I think there are more affordable alternatives on the market.

I chose a Yes To Grapefruit mask from Latest in Beauty. I didn’t realise they were hard to get hold of in the UK – at least I couldn’t find a link for them, but I’ve just discovered the Yes To range and I enjoyed this mask, which is a correct and repair mask, promising pore perfection! I wouldn’t say this is a problem area of mine, but I don’t think it can do any harm!

When I still got my Love Me Beauty subscription, I got a mini of the Aromatherapy Associates hydrating, renewing rose cleanser. To be honest, I still have loads of my vitamin E cleanser from the Body Shop, but I did enjoy using this delicately rose-scented cleanser. I’m not usually a fan of flowery products, but this one was subtle and it removed all of my make-up. I can’t say how it does on really heavy make-up, but it did what I needed it to, and I would buy this again once I’ve got my cleanser backlog down!

Bath and shower

I mentioned the Korres almond and cherry body lotion in the March empties post. This month I finished up the Korres almond and cherry shower gel as well. I think these are really good quality products and I’m looking forward to trying out more of this Greek skincare range.

When I’m in hotels, I don’t usually bother with the free body washes and hair products because I usually assume that my own are nicer. However, if it says grapefruit on the bottle, I obviously need to give it a go. I would only put hair and body wash on my body, but this smelled really good in the shower and I was impressed at the hotel choosing this for the guests.

There is also a really lovely Mango and honey body lotion that smells good enough to eat!

Can you believe I’m still using up products from my Body Shop advent calendar? I don’t think I’d go out and buy the strawberry shower gel because I’m not a massive fan of the strawberry range, but it was nice enough to have a little bottle of it to try. I’m more of a citrus girl, but if you like the strawberry scent, I think all of the Body Shop’s shower gels are decent in terms of the formula – it just depends on your favourite scents.

If you are in to citrus, you’d also like the verbena foaming bath soak from L’Occitane. Not the cheapest bubble bath on the market, but definitely worth it if you’re looking for a treat with lemony bubbles to sooth and relax you while you soak.

Hair care

As I continue my quest for the best hair mask, I tried out the L’Oreal Paris hair expertise nourishing mask. All of these say they’re for dry hair, and although I don’t have dry hair, I like to do a mask 2 or 3 times a month to give it an extra moisturising and nourishing treat. I liked this one from L’Oreal more than the Tony and Guy one, but I think the Garnier ones are still my favourites so far. This mask contains botanical oils and apricot seed, and it gives nourishment to the hair fibres whilst protecting the hair from dryness. It’s a generous pot and I’d say it’s good value because you get a number of treatments out of it.

Staying on the topic of hair care, I finished up the Schwarzkopf super soft apple shampoo. This is much less than I used to pay for shampoo, but I can’t say that the product was any less affective! I want something that does a good job on my hair, but also smells pleasant, and I find that a lot of the more expensive brands don’t tick the second box. This is apparently for “fine , weak and lifeless hair”, which in a way discourages me from buying it again, but on the other hand, it did a good job! There are products for dry hair, fine hair, damaged hair, coloured hair – what about normal hair? Anyway, it makes my hair super soft and does boost volume, so the chances are I’ll just ignore the packaging and buy it again because I liked the apple scent and the results!

How about you?

So, what have you got through in April? What will you definitely be buying again? Were there any products that you couldn’t stand?! If you have a favourites or an empties post for April, feel free to drop the link in the comments – I love to read them. Here are my April favourites.

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Being kind to hands

Being kind to hands

Winter is not kind to hands. I find that, particularly when the weather is colder, my hands get dry, and I like to keep a tube of hand cream on my desk or in my bag at all times.

I decided to look into some products that are designed to take care of our hands or give them a treat. This is what I came up with!

1. Seychelles hand cream from the White Company

I discovered this Seychelles hand cream on Latest in Beauty, and I liked it so much that I got another one the following month!

The scent is gorgeous and makes you think you’re on a hot, sunny island somewhere (must be the coconut!) The consistency is good – it’s neither greasy nor watery. Afterwards your hands feel wonderfully soft and what’s more, you don’t need to keep reapplying it. I’ll definitely be getting a full-sized one of these soon like the one behind the link.

2. Kaeso luscious manicure kit

I decided to get this manicure kit for healthy hands and nails because I wanted to try out the Kaeso range, and I also thought it would be a good way to try out some new types of products. The set includes

  • 1 x Red Berry Splash, Hand Soak 195ml
  • 1 x Pink Grapefruit Drizzle, Hygiene Spray 195ml
  • 1 x Mulberry & Pomegranate Sorbet, Hand Scrub 95ml
  • 1 x Wild Berry Butter, Hand Mask 250ml
  • 1 x Cranberry Sensation, Hand Treatment Cream 250ml

Many of the products are fruity, which gives them points before I even start using them, and they don’t contain any parabens or sulphates. If you want to try out these products, it does work out cheaper to get the set – you just have to work out whether you would use them all.

I don’t like scrubs, so I gave the scrub away. It smelled good though!

I haven’t used a hand soak before – you just put some of it in warm water and then leave to soak in the fruity goodness.

My favourite product was the hand mask. It’s rich and creamy and after wrapping my hands up and leaving them for a while, I definitely noticed the difference in terms of softness and the feeling that they’d been moisturised. I wouldn’t buy the set again, but I would buy this product individually.

The hand cream is good value for money – you get a big tube of it, a little goes a long way, and it smells delicious. It doesn’t knock my current favourites off the top of the list, but it’s definitely something I would use again.

I’m not convinced we needed such a big hand sanitiser and I think the cuticle cream from the same range would have been a nicer finishing touch to the bag, but I guess it’ll come in useful before doing the other treatments. Still, 195 ml will still be going when all the other stuff has run out! I do use hand sanitisers, but not really in the house and this is too big for a handbag.

So, all in all, I think the set is a good buy, especially if you don’t have an aversion to scrubs like I do! I will use four out of the five products and I enjoyed trying out two new products (the soak and the hand mask).

3. Hand mask

One of my friends was talking about hand glove masks on Youtube and, as someone who is really into sheet masks, I was keen to try out a sheet mask for hands! I got the almond and shea butter moisture hand mask. I’m not sure what I was expecting really, but the gloves were much thinner than the sheet masks I use, which meant they were a bit difficult to get on, particularly as they were already covered in the product. For some reason I thought they’d be dry on the outside and moist inside. In fact I would have paid more for that, so if anyone knows of a glove mask like that, please let me know!

Anyway, I know that they need to be suitable for all sizes, but these gloves were way too big for me and I found the whole experience quite messy! I’m going to stick to the hand mask lotion from the Kaeso kit!

4. Glass nail file

I needed a new nail file anyway, and I don’t like the sandpapery scratchy ones, so I decided to get a glass one instead. There were so many on offer, I didn’t know which one to get, but in the end I got the manicare glass nail file which I think does the job nicely!

5. Hand food hand cream

This is a “Youtube made me buy it” product! It’s the Soap and Glory hand food (hand cream)!

It contains shea butter, macadamia oil and marshmallow. Some people rave about the scent. I’m not that fussed about it to be honest because I find it quite sweet, but I do like the silky smooth finish after using it, and it leaves my hands feeling soft for a long time, which is why I would buy it again.

How about you?

What are your favourite hand products? Let me know in the comments!

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The Co-Op puts Braille on some of its products to make them accessible to blind customers

“It says chocolate cake!”

It was only when I was tidying up the kitchen and moving empty cake boxes that I noticed it! The Braille on the bottom of a chocolate cake from the co-op.

Braille is a system of patterns of dots that blind people use in order to read. Some blind people label things in Braille, I have sticky labels on my spice rack, but it’s still quite uncommon to find products that have been labelled in Braille by the manufacturer.

Legally, tablets and medicines have to be labelled in Braille (let’s see if we’re as fortunate when the UK leaves the EU). This is nothing new, although I did have to point out to the vet that sticking their own labels over the Braille ones kind of defeated the object of having it in the first place.

Anyway, as long as I keep things in their original cardboard boxes, it’s easy enough to identify what tablets are. But chocolate cake? That was something new.

Of course the discovery meant that we had to buy more chocolate cake in order to get a photo for this blog. See the hardship I went to for you, my readers?!

I contacted the Co-op to find out a bit more about why they had decided to label some of their products in Braille. This is the response I received back from Ian Ferguson, Manager on the Food Policy Team:

“We are the only retailer to carry braille on food and non-food products as we understand how important braille is to help for our visually impaired customers to lead independent lives, and we take very seriously our commitment to our customers to provide excellent products and customer service.”

“The Co-operative Food provides braille on all of its own-brand food and non-food product packaging, where it is technically feasible.

We first introduced braille onto our own-brand medicines in 2001, and then onto all products, where technically possible, from 2002.

Unique braille files and metal printing blocks are created for each of the many thousands of individual products, and are checked before being printed on pack.

For cardboard we would use a unique set of metal printing blocks, for self-adhesive labels we would use silk-screen printing.”

I have to be honest and say that I don’t usually shop at the Co-op. I used to live near one, and it was really handy to have it so close by if I forgot something. But I would like to support what they’re doing, and also to make other blind shoppers aware of it. After all, I only discovered the Braille by accident as I was tidying up.

As I mentioned in my article about Braille products from L’Occitane, having Braille labels on products wouldn’t necessarily help me in the store (I’m not going to pick up every box on the shelf to see whether it’s what I’m looking for), but once in the home, it’s nice not to have to remember what things are or label them myself. Also, if you know that the label is on the bottom of the box, for boxes with no plastic insert, it’s also a good way to know which way up they should go!

The statement doesn’t give further examples of Braille products. I’ve seen it on cakes and pizza bases, but I’d be interested to know what else you’ve come across with Braille on it. Let me know in the comments if you’ve found Braille on other Co-op products too!

So well done to the Co-op!

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April favourites – elephants, skincare, and chocolate bunnies!

April favourites – elephants, skincare, and chocolate bunnies!

Hello and welcome to my April favourites post!

Skincare

Firstly, you may remember that the Burt’s Bees haircare products I mentioned in my March empties didn’t get a good review. However, I do like this brand, particularly their skincare products. My newest addition is the Burt’s Bees mango lip balm. Of course I bought it because it says “mango”, but I was impressed with this handy stick that you can put in your bag. I much prefer balms that come in a stick form because they are easier to apply, and this one also tastes of mango – an additional bonus. I know that’s not the point of it – I also like the way my lips feel soft and smooth after using this product, and the fact that natural products are used is an additional benefit.

I’ve said before that I don’t like exfoliators, and in the past I got round this problem by buying exfoliating toners that use natural fruit acids. I was very happy to discover some exfoliating pads on the Latest in Beauty website, and I was keen to try them out. I got the glycolic fix cleansing pads from Nip and Fab, and I’m really impressed with them. Ok, it’s a bit lazy having the pads already made up, but as someone who can’t see, I do find it a pain to use some of the bottles with massive wide necks and a thin substance inside (surely a little neck or pump would have been better?) so having the product already on the pad is a bonus. Plus I think these are good for travelling, because they take up less room in your travel bag. At the time of writing, this pack of 60 pads was on offer for half price.

I have already mentioned the shea light comforting face cream in my L’Occitane review, but I’ve been using it all month and I would add it to my list of face cream favourites, which doesn’t often happen, because overall I’m happy with my Body Shop face care products. Next time I’d like to get the other face cream in this range from L’Occitane because it is specifically for dryer skin.

Jewellery

I had some time to spare at the airport, so I went into an expensive jewellery shop! I didn’t buy anything, but I did get my fingers measured to check my ring size, which meant I was able to put in an order for this ring with a family of elephants walking across it! When I bought it, the ring was on sale for around £15, which gives a saving of around £40 on the usual asking price (as I write, it’s still at that price). I like more delicate rings, rather than ones with huge spiky rocks sticking out of them, and I like elephants too! The elephants are engraved into the ring and I appreciate this tactile element to the ring. So if you’d like to give a home to a family of elephants, you can check them out on Amazon!

Bath and shower

I like to switch out my bubble bath and this month I went back to my chocolate orange bubble bath! I love this smell and the room smells of chocolate and oranges for ages. I’m not a big fan of bath products that leave a mess in the bath or leave me covered in oil, so I tend to look out for nice bubble baths, and this one is a winner!

The problem with creating cherry-scented products is you have to be careful that they don’t smell like cough mixture – because who would want to take a bath in cough mixture? I think Patisserie De Bain got it right with this Patisserie de Bain Sweet as cherry pie shower crème and I’m looking forward to trying the lemon one.

Food and drink

We are still getting through our Easter chocolate supply! The supermarket where I usually shop had run out of Cadbury’s crème eggs, so we had to go on a hunt of our own! I’ve started a tradition of buying Lindt bunnies for both of us. I think this is a good Easter tradition and they are so delicious!

Hair care

For moisturised, tangle-free, healthy-looking hair! Sounds good! So I decided to try the Body Shop’s banana conditioner and I liked it! It smells of bananas, but is not overpowering, and my hair was lovely and silky afterwards.

Books

The last thing on my list is a book – The elf stones of Shannara, which I got for Christmas last year. I never used to read fantasy books, but I have recently discovered it can be a refreshing change to venture into worlds that aren’t real! To be honest, I thought the stories were kind of pointless and just about fighting stuff, but although there are some quite violent scenes in this book, there is a clear narrative about a princess and her companion, who have to go on a dangerous quest in order to save the tree that protects the people from evil.

If you prefer listening to audio books, I explain how you can get a free audio book from Audible on my audio book page.

How about you?

So, what have you been enjoying this month? Please let me know in the comments, and if you’ve written a favourites post, feel free to link it.

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